How to Heal Survival Wounds
(blog series #6/11)
Hello love! In this next installment of our core wound healing series, we'll explore the survival wound and discuss how cultivating stability and security can help us overcome feelings of instability, scarcity, and fear. If you're new to our journey, visit our previous posts to learn more about core wounds and their origins (link).
Do you frequently experience feelings of scarcity or anxiety about the future? Do you struggle to maintain a sense of safety or find it challenging to trust in the abundance of life? If so, you may carry the survival wound. Know that you are not alone, and all wounds can be healed.
Take our core wound quiz to determine if survival is your core wound (and if not, check the other blogs on healing core wounds:)
Why focus on healing your primary core wound first?
Maximize healing impact: By addressing the wound with the most significant current impact, you'll experience substantial improvements in your well-being and relationships, providing motivation and momentum to continue healing.
Clear a path for healing other wounds: Healing your core wound develops essential skills, insights, and resilience for addressing other wounds effectively.
Gain clarity and direction: Identifying your core wound illuminates patterns and triggers, helping you set clearer goals and track progress.
Prevent overwhelm: Prioritizing your core wound allows you to maintain focus, avoid burnout, and ensure meaningful progress.
Ready to embark on your inner child healing journey for the survival wound? Follow these steps:
STEP-BY-STEP GUIDE: HEALING THE SURVIVAL WOUND
Step 1: Identify Survival Patterns
Begin your healing journey by cultivating self-awareness. Pay close attention to moments when you feel unstable, experience fear of loss, anxious about the future, or struggle to trust in life's abundance. These patterns indicate that your survival wound needs attention and healing. Keep a daily journal to document these experiences and consider starting a mindfulness meditation practice (check out my meditations on Insight Timer here). These tools will help deepen your understanding of your inner world and better manage your emotions throughout your healing journey.
Step 2: Identify Subpersonalities
Explore your inner system by asking these questions for each subpersonality:
What emotions or behaviors arise when you feel insecure or scarce? (e.g., hoarding resources, fear-based decision-making, catastrophizing, etc.)
What triggers strong reactions, causing you to seek control or isolate yourself? (e.g., financial instability, uncertain situations, etc.)
What name would you give this part of yourself? (e.g., The Scarcity-Driven Gate Keeper)
Discovering your subpersonalities is a process, so I encourage you to be patient and compassionate with yourself as you take the time to name and understand these parts of you. Tracking your patterns in Step 1 will significantly help you identify these parts more easily.
Step 3: Self-Compassion
Explore the Pathway Back to Love Process– I created this to help you practice self-care when you’re feeling emotionally dysregulated and want to soothe your inner parts system: close your eyes, place one hand over your heart, and:
Acknowledge: “Parts of me are active, and that's okay”
State to yourself “ Emotions are temporary waves in the ocean of who I am”
State to yourself “ I choose to be kind and love myself through this” (or choose your compassionate phrase)
Step 4: Activate One of the Seven Soul Qualities
Healing the survival wound involves activating the Seven Soul Qualities as described in a previous post in this series. They are: Peace, Love, Joy, Freedom, Trust, Courage, and Power. In this post, we will focus on the qualities of Trust and Peace to overcome feelings of instability and anxiety. But please choose the quality you most want to cultivate and ask yourself, "How can I bring this quality into my day?"
Trust: Reflect on a past event where you experienced trust in the universe or a higher power, no matter how small. It could be a time when you let go of control and allowed the universe to guide you, and it led to a positive outcome– I call this the “Little Miracles Journal”. Write down the emotions you experienced during that event, from beginning to end. Journal about what it would be like to extend a bit more trust in the universe and its ability to provide for you. Consider taking one step forward this week. Next, visualize a future situation where you will need to rely on trust in the universe- perhaps as it relates to money or safety. If you connect with spirit guides, you might ask them to join you in this intentional shift where you ask for support in feeling safe and trusting. Repeat as needed.
Peace: Cultivating inner peace helps you build a solid emotional foundation and reduces the impact of survival fears. To nurture inner peace, create a weekly retreat for yourself. During this retreat, incorporate practices such as meditation, deep breathing exercises, and positive affirmations that align with abundance.
As you engage in these activities, set an intention to release the past and reframe any fear-based beliefs that may arise. You can also journal your thoughts and emotions during this time, which will help you process any insights that come up during the retreat. By making this peace-inspired retreat a regular part of your self-care routine, you'll strengthen your connection to the energy of peace and abundance within you– and connect more deeply to the infinite supply of the universe.
Step 5: The Akashic Core Wound Method
Once you've gained insight into your inner parts system and cultivated self-compassion, I invite you to join me on the Akashic Core Wound Healing Journey. The Akashic Records are a spiritual realm containing a vibrational record of every soul's journey throughout time. Accessing these records can provide insights and healing for our core wounds. Through the Akashic Core Wound journey, I invite you to focus on healing your survival wound- but not until you have focused on the steps before and feel that you are gaining insight into your inner parts system as well as compassion for yourself. And please note: There is no time limit on this, everyone’s journey will be different!
(CORE WOUND HEALING GUIDEBOOK HERE WHICH INCLUDES MEDITATION)
Next Steps on Your Core Wound Healing Journey
As we bring this post to a close, I encourage you to remain open and curious on this transformative journey of healing core wounds. Remember to practice patience, extend extra self-love, and stay mindful of your inner patterns. Celebrate each small victory along the way – every step is a significant milestone in your journey towards living an empowered and authentic life aligned with your Soul's purpose.
Please share your experiences, insights, and questions in the comments below, as we cultivate a supportive and nurturing community on this healing path.
Stay tuned for the next blog post in this 11-part series, where I will highlight one of the Seven Soul Qualities in each blog. Gain a greater understanding of how these qualities make up the essence of who you are and discover how to activate them based on your unique needs and aspirations.
Also quick note: I have a new book coming out this year that provides the full map for your core wound healing journey, all in one place with exercises and guidance to help you make momentum forward on your core wound healing path. I invite you to click this link below to join the book interest list, to be the first to receive exciting goodies alongside the book, as well as when the release date is:
Please do share in the comments any insights you’ve gained or what you’re excited about, I’d love to hear from you!
